8.
The Discourse on Bondage
51.
"I will teach you, monks, an exposition of the Teaching on union and separation.
Listen to that, etc.
And what, monks, is that exposition of the Teaching on union and separation?
"A woman, monks, internally attends to the femininity faculty - feminine behaviour, feminine deportment, feminine manner, feminine desire, feminine voice, feminine adornment. She finds pleasure in that, she delights in that. She, having found pleasure in that, delighting in that, externally attends to the masculinity faculty - masculine behaviour, masculine deportment, masculine manner, masculine desire, masculine voice, masculine adornment. She finds pleasure in that, she delights in that. She, having found pleasure in that, delighting in that, wishes for external union. And whatever happiness and pleasure arises for her by reason of union, that too she wishes for. Beings, monks, delighting in femininity, have gone to union with men. Thus, monks, a woman does not go beyond femininity.
"A man, monks, internally attends to the masculinity faculty - masculine behaviour, masculine deportment, masculine manner, masculine desire, masculine voice, masculine adornment. He finds pleasure in that, he delights in that. He, having found pleasure in that, delighting in that, externally attends to the femininity faculty - feminine behaviour, feminine deportment, feminine manner, feminine desire, feminine voice, feminine adornment. He finds pleasure in that, he delights in that. He, having found pleasure in that, delighting in that, wishes for external union. And whatever happiness and pleasure arises for him by reason of union, that too he wishes for. Beings, monks, delighting in masculinity, have gone to union with women. Thus, monks, a man does not go beyond masculinity. Thus, monks, there is union.
"And how, monks, is there separation? A woman, monks, does not internally attend to the femininity faculty - feminine behaviour, feminine deportment, feminine manner, feminine desire, feminine voice, feminine adornment. She does not find pleasure in that, she does not delight in that. She, not having found pleasure in that, not delighting in that, does not externally attend to the masculinity faculty - masculine behaviour, masculine deportment, masculine manner, masculine desire, masculine voice, masculine adornment. She does not find pleasure in that, she does not delight in that. She, not having found pleasure in that, not delighting in that, does not wish for external union. And whatever happiness and pleasure arises for her by reason of union, that too she does not wish for. Beings, monks, not delighting in femininity, have gone to separation from men. Thus, monks, a woman goes beyond femininity.
"A man, monks, does not attend to the masculinity faculty internally - masculine behaviour, masculine deportment, masculine manner, masculine desire, masculine voice, masculine adornment. He does not find pleasure there, he does not delight there. He, not finding pleasure there, not delighting there, does not attend to the femininity faculty externally - feminine behaviour, feminine deportment, feminine manner, feminine desire, feminine voice, feminine adornment. He does not find pleasure there, does not delight there. He, not finding pleasure there, not delighting there, does not wish for union externally. And whatever happiness and pleasure arises due to union, that too he does not wish for. Beings, monks, not delighting in masculinity, have gone to separation from women. Thus, monks, a man goes beyond masculinity. Thus, monks, there is separation. This, monks, is the exposition of the Teaching on union and separation." The eighth.